David Schnarch. · Rating details · 2, ratings · reviews. Passionate Marriage is recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. PASSIONATE MARRIAGE: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed In Passionate Marriage, Dr. David Schnarch organizes fourteen chapters into three . Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships By David Schnarch, Ph. D. Norton, pp. ISBN

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Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

I think there are probably ways of reconciling this, but Scharch did not acknowledge this, mention it, or attempt to address it. And I was saying, “No. You do it by getting into a relationship and going through this incredible developmental process that is built into all emotionally committed relationships. So the hallmark of a well-developed person is not [just] a person who can stand on their own against pressure to conform and at the same time flex and bend when circumstances [require].

I’ve read other books that contain these same ideas Harriet Lerner’s “Dance of” books for example but for some reason Passionate Marriage was the one that really connected with me at a visceral level.

They don’t have enough inside them to hold onto their values. I think that’s also why [sometimes] people davkd have these kinds of amazing relationships, because the price of success is so high.


And as they became more evolved, both their sexuality and their spirituality became more evolved. A very useful book, I learnt a lot from it about differentiation, self-validation and how to grow and mature emotionally in a relationship.

Those parts can be skimmed over if you want. We’ll split it between us! This is pretty unheard of in modern self-help type books.

It is more of a memoir of a psychotherapist about some of the couples he’s treated in his practice throughout the years. Their values don’t line up magriage their other values or what they do.

Passionate Marriage : Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

But more recently, I propose that there is actually a fourth drive of sexual desire, and that fourth drive is more powerful that the other three combined: I have a dog-eared copy that is going on ten years old I find myself becoming less rigid. Today my guest is Dr.

Intimacy based on self-fulfillment and personal strength means that you are choosing your partner for who they are and NOT who you need them to be for you. I’ll take two helpings of that!

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That’s the other concept which breaks the stereo type of romance and intimacy. Well, now you’ve made me settle down.

You need to talk passionare your heart as opposed to having your armor on. Well, it’s not that hard. Being able to raise the topic straight and say, “Look, Favid not blaming. This book and Dr Schnarch’s description of differentiation had a profound positive affect on me, on the way I see myself, and on the way I see and approach my marriage. If you’re not willing to have meaningful endurance and tolerate discomfort for growth, you’re not going to be able to accomplish any of your goals.


Customers who viewed this item also viewed. When I help couples have better sex, most people think at first that [they have to go] to a gym or [get] a trapeze and [do] athletic maneuvers, but the best sex that people ever have really is about finally having peace. I’ve worked with a lot of couples.

They’re contentious, they’re belligerent with each other. I highly recommend this book for anyone who is co-dependent, stubborn, bored or day-dreaming about sex with people outside their relationships. My advice to the seeker, read “Tantra: Come as You Are: By using our website you agree to our use of cookies.